Tame the Toy Monster

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Ch. 6: Gear for Walking the Trail Sage Homeschooling: A Lifestyle of Connection The physical environment of your child’s playscape is a metaphor for your child’s internal state. Are you setting your child up for success with optimal playscape design? Is your home environment conducive to learning? Organization fosters calmness, while disorganization fosters chaos. Appropriate toy storage paired with an easily maintained system of organization is key.
 An environment full of play opportunities from all the developmental areas, across the zone of proximal development, spurs self-directed learning through play. It goes even beyond that in that you can tailor your […]

Ectopic Pregnancy

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A friend of mine went through the experience of a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. After searching online for information and coming up yearning for support, I encouraged her to share her story for your benefit. She wishes to remain anonymous, but if you would like to be put in touch, just email me (SageParenting@gmail.com) as she is willing to connect. Walnut My husband and I found out that we were expecting on December 17th, 2013. After having used up a couple of pregnancy tests before that date because I could not bare the excitement, the third stick finally validated my feeling. We were both […]

The Top 5 Homeschooling Expenses

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1. Curricula This is probably the most obvious of all of the homeschooling expenses. The textbooks and workbooks that directly aid teaching cost money (shocker). There is a vast world of curricula from which to choose so you can factor your budget into your curriculum selections along with your child’s learning style. Try to get your non-consumables (books that can be used repeatedly) from libraries and/or other homeschooling families. Our homeschool charter has a resource library to lend non-consumables and provides each child with a set amount of EUs (educational units) that are dollars to spend on the consumable curricular […]

Pediatricians are not Gods

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Your pediatrician is not a god. S/he works for you. Remember that. I am so grateful for the access to medical support and expertise I am afforded and I gratefully utilize my pediatrician in times when I decide their medical knowledge and access to medication would be advantageous for my child. This is not a piece speaking out against pediatricians. This is written to empower you within the relationship with your pediatrician. There seems to be some confusion wherein parents walk into the exam room offering their baby at the feet of the omniscient pediatric deity. Unquestioning acceptance of every […]

Homeschooling Curriculum Favorites

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Mystery Science Balance Benders (Critical Thinking Company) Explode the Code Handwriting Without Tears Keyboarding Without Tears Khan Academy Michael Clay Thomas (MCT) Mind Benders (Critical Thinking Company) Singapore Math Story of the World Sassafras Science Adventures Staples Journaling Daily Reading Nature Journaling Websites ABC Ya Dance Mat Typing Disney DIY Duolingo Eco Kids Fold N Fly Fun Brain Nasa Kids Club National Geographic Khan Academy Make Me Genius PBS Go Pottermore Salsa Spelling City Starfall Wonderopolis ABC Mouse Curiosityville Disney Junior Magic Tree House PBS Kids iPad Apps   [This post contains links to products I find useful. These are […]

Nursing in Public Discrimination

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My Journey Synopsis In a weekly, private meeting with our homeschool teacher through the Poway Unified School District (PUSD), I began breastfeeding my baby when the teacher told me that it was inappropriate. I educated her as to the law in CA, which states that a woman may breastfeed her baby anywhere she and her baby are allowed to be. I then received a phone call informing me that the official position the district would be taking is that because of my breastfeeding status, my 7 year old son would be excluded from the monthly group presentation class, and would […]

Stranger Danger?

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  “Don’t talk to strangers.” “Just Say No.” “Abstinence only.” These were all programs designed to keep our kids healthy and safe that have been undeniably and quantitatively proven failures. Most of us were told not to talk to strangers by our parents, teachers, and the media. Teaching your children not to talk to strangers was a simple strategy parents loved and kids easily understood, but it was based on an erroneous assessment of danger and deprived children of the skills they need to interact safely with others. Instead, parents need to guide their children through the sea of complex […]

Sex After Baby

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How Mama Gets Her Groove Back It is not uncommon to experience a dramatic reduction in sexual interest after having a baby. As you can imagine, if you did not anticipate this evolution in the lifespan of your marital relationship, it can lead to secondary problems such as feelings of guilt and abandonment. So let’s lay it all out on the table, look at all the factors at play in the sex life of a new mama, and reconstruct a sexual relationship that incorporates the new you and your new life. Nature I want to start off by saying that […]

Booby Biter

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  The shockwave of pain that runs through your body is only matched by the paralyzing panic of frantically trying to remove this piranha from your nipple. Biting while breastfeeding can occur with or without teeth, but know that your baby’s entry into the world of chompers doesn’t have to mean chomping or weaning. Here’s the 411 on how to handle your booby biter as you handle all of your parenting challenges: with respect, compassion, and Sage Parenting19 know-how. If your baby is teething, the urge to bite down is powerful, so a firm “No biting” does not address the […]

Naptime

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Respectful Rest I stay close, knowing that based on his natural rhythm, we could be nearing a period of dormancy. He slows down. He lingers closer. Then he takes my hand and politely asks, “Mommy, sit couch, mup (mommy milk)?” We snuggle down. He nurses and leaves the conscious world swirling around him for the secure and peaceful rest of a nap. And now I get to pull over my laptop, while my Squishy cuddles next to me, and write this piece on naps, which have to be one of the most grossly misunderstood and over-controlled aspects of parenting. I […]

Night Night Milkies

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Gentle Night Weaning Many breastfed toddlers reach a point when they figure out that during the day, they do not want to stop being active and having fun to breastfeed. Walking and eating new solid foods are novel skills they are just too excited about to take a break, be still, and nurse. They want to spend the whole day walking, playing, and chowing down on solid food. But they are not yet ready to wean; they still crave the nutrition from breastmilk and the bonding time from breastfeeding. Your toddler is so smart that they may realize that nighttime is […]

Postpartum Depression

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A plea for connection over further disconnect I was recently a guest on a radio show about Postpartum Depression (PPD) in which the expert panelist was a very prominent leader in the field of PPD treatment. I was excited for the show and optimistic about the potential effects of having this discussion on this public forum. For a half hour I sat there listening to various iterations of the same treatment, pounded into the PPD treatment storyline: “date night” “an hour a day to yourself” “alone time” “independent interests”. I was sadly not surprised yet utterly disappointed that at no […]

Spanking: Children are People, Not Property

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There are some important questions to consider when looking at the issue of spanking: Is it okay to spank? There is no controversy. There is no debate. Spanking is ineffective and wrong. Some common arguments for the acceptability of spanking include the patriotic argument of ownership. “He is my child and I can parent him in any way I see fit.” While this is mostly true, as this freedom is a part of the foundation of this country and results in a better-rounded and diverse group of people, there are some limits to that freedom that we have collectively agreed […]

Touting my Toddler Tula

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A babywearing review As you all know, I have been an Ergo Baby fan for a long time, and I still am. So when people kept telling me I should give the Tula a try I kept coming up against a wall of “How is it any different from the Ergo?” and couldn’t get a good answer. Then my interest was piqued as my baby officially became a toddler and I discovered that Tulas come in a specially made size just for toddlers. So I ordered a gorgeous gray chevron toddler Tula and trekked around around Sea World for the […]

Our Children’s Book Favorites

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You can really help to shape your child’s experience and understanding of their world through the books you read together. Choose wisely and make reading books together a part of your lives. I have spent hours on the floors of bookstores and libraries reading through piles of books and gratefully receiving wonderful additions to our library from friends. Here are our favorites: Picture Books My Many Colored Days by Dr. Seuss My Many Colored Days is absolutely one of my favorite books.  It gives little ones so much.  Emotional intelligence is one of the greatest gifts you can give your […]

Family Fun in San Diego

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Nature Walk FREE, educational, healthy… ahhh the nature walk.  So good for the mind, body, and spirit.  Put your baby in the sling or carrier, let the children run free (leave the stroller at home), and bring Fido on the leash.  You are free to move at your own pace, stopping along the way to smell every flower and touch every tree.  This is a great opportunity to give your baby an educational multisensory experience.  Feel the wind, hold a leaf, hear an animal, see a butterfly, talking about it all with your little ones as their ambassador to nature.  […]

Infant Massage Rubs San Diego Babies the Right Way

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San Diego parents are catching on; research shows that infant massage makes your baby smarter, stronger, healthier, and happier. While most parents are lured to infant massage by benefits like improved sleep patterns and relief from gastrointestinal distress, many find the most rewarding benefit to be the bond that is fostered in their new relationship with their baby. Are you a new parent? Do you want to give your baby every advantage? Do you want something that makes parenting life easier along the way? Infant massage can give your baby a significant physical, intellectual, emotional, and social advantage that lasts […]

Public Humiliation as Discipline

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I can honestly say that this is one parenting trend that I did not see coming. It has taken me so long to write about it because quite frankly, I just cannot wrap my head around it. I have hesitated to even speak to it to avoid lending it any legitimacy. I had so hoped that these blips that kept popping up onto my radar were crazy flukes that would soon cease. Yet they persist. It flabbergasts me at two points along the process. First, that any parent would come up with the idea to publicly humiliate their child as […]

Asked and Answered

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When your child makes a request, REFLECT: “You want to go to the store and get a new Jesse guy.” VALIDATE: “You are saying this is very important to you because your Jesse guy broke.” CONSIDER: Try to find a way to say yes. “We could go to the store tomorrow after school and you could bring your allowance money and see if you have enough.” RESPOND: Clearly respond. “We cannot go to the store today.” EXPLAIN: We have too many things we already have to do today like soccer and a doctor’s appointment. NEGOTIATE: If your children are clever […]

Living Simply: Gratitude Over Greed

Living Simply: Gratitude over Greed

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  I am always slightly disheartened by the intensity of the fever pitch for acquisition. If you ask my children what the holidays are about, they will tell you something to the effect of “togetherness, giving, light.” While many are capable of reciting that dignified line, not many actually live that pledge. Millions of advertising dollars are spent convincing you and your children that “togetherness, giving, and light” come at a price and look quite different than the true heart of that sentiment. It is a powerful engine that drives the point and picks us all up along the way. I […]