SFP 12: Sleep with Melissa Lang Lytle

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Listen in iTunes | Listen in Stitcher Today I’m here with my friend Melissa Lang Lytle talking about sleep. I would consider myself to be a bit of a late bloomer and care deeply about finding ways to be more connected to both the physical and spiritual world. I’m a mama of three children and married to my best friend for almost 18 years! I gravitate towards people and ideas that cultivate authenticity, vulnerability, and groundedness. Support the show on Patreon Adventure of the Week I share the fun we had on my mom’s visit when we went to an […]

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SFP 6: Breastfeeding with Joy MacTavish

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Listen in iTunes | Listen in Stitcher Today I’m here with my friend Joy MacTavish talking about Breastfeeding on the natural path: on cue, at night, in public, and full term. Joy MacTavish, MA, IBCLC, RLC supports families with lactation, babywearing, and gentle parenting practices through her business, Sound Beginnings. She lives with her family in a multi-generational home in Shoreline, Washington where they enjoy reading, LEGO, exploring, and impromptu science experiments. Support the show on Patreon Adventure of the Week This week we played in an indoor playground, which is as a general rule I’m not a huge fan of, but it […]

Breastfeeding Myths Busted

Breastfeeding Myths Busted

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Most women don’t produce enough milk. The vast majority of women do produce just the right amount of milk for their babies, no supplementing required. However, it is a common fear among moms that their babies are not getting enough milk. Out of a desire to ensure the very best for our babies, we try to control and manage even natural processes that function best when not micromanaged. If your pediatrician is concerned about your baby’s slow weight gain, ensure that your doctor is referencing the World Heath Organization’s (WHO) Breastfeeding Infant’s Growth Chart (not the Centers for Disease Control […]

Natural Parenting

I’m Taking Back “Natural Parenting”

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  What do you picture when you hear “Natural Parenting”? When I hear the term “Natural Parenting,” I think of a parent invited over to share a meal saying, “Oh, we don’t eat any of those processed chemicals. Do you know know if this veg is a Monsanto crop? We’ll just eat our sea weed and GMO free almond butter.” Now, I’m actually all for natural fuel for our bodies (I can make fun of myself too), but Natural Parenting is a whole different thing for me. pieces Attitude I’m just going to start at the outer most level because […]

Sage Sleep Revolution

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After spending over 7 years guiding over 800 families to peaceful nights, I have found there to be a few principles that universally help families achieve rest, connection, and independence. While working directly with these families through Sage Sleep coaching allows me to provide a personalized plan for each individual family’s needs, I needed a way to get those universal principles out to more families. There is a path that can bring so much peace and harmony that most families just can’t see. I’ve seen the results first hand hundreds of times – better sleep for babies and their people. The Sage […]

The Secret to Baby Sleep is Sensory

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  Taking a sensory approach to the sleep environment is a secret of mine that yields tremendous results in all the sleep coaching I do with no discomfort, tears, or disconnection (part of the Sage Sleep secret sauce, if you will). When setting up your child’s sleepscape, think about that environment through a sensory lens, considering all 5 senses. Sight Nightlight Not all little ones need a nightlight but the natural fear of our nocturnal predators makes bringing one into the space wise. Orange/red/yellow hues trigger sleepiness while white/blue hues trigger awakening. An on button that your little one can master at a young age […]

Sleep Trainer Translator

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So often the verbiage used in the world of sleep training is confusing and misleading to tired parents just trying to do right by their babies. So I have created here for you a Sleep Trainer Translator, to take the phrases often prescribed to new parents by sleep trainers and turn them into accurate and accessible translations. But be warned, this translator is dripping with snark and will likely offend, so saddle up your defensiveness and wrangle your face of righteous indignation. Teach your baby to self-soothe. Do not respond to Baby so that he stops communicating his needs. Note: Babies […]

The Breast Season

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You’re all too willing to spend hours cuddled up nursing in the mornings, preparing for the drought of distraction the day brings. I sense that you feel it too, as the milk seems to taste that much more sweet to you, and these moments that much more precious. Like a small thorn in the bands of love that bind us, my bliss is pricked by the thought that this will end. Your small hand resting lovingly on my chest is no longer a passive receptacle for my loving touch. It now creeps across me with its own priorities that amuse […]

16 Responses to Nursing in Public Idiocy

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While discrimination against breastfeeding in public is completely without merit, there are a few ignorant arguments that have been repeated so often they warrant addressing. So let’s get a few things straight: 1. If you can expose your breasts in public, then can I expose my penis in public? Breasts are not sexual organs. Breasts are not part of the female reproductive system. Breasts are not comparable to a penis. Unless you’re ready to accept dildos as freely and openly in public as a bottle, don’t make this comparison. Exposing a vulva in public would be an appropriate comparison to exposing […]

Put Cry-It-Out to Bed

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 Sleep Training: Sleep is not learned. There are a lot of sleep trainers out there who will begin by espousing the importance of sleep for your baby’s health and then explain that it is your responsibility to teach (force) them to sleep. Sleep is not a learned behavior. A learned behavior is something we are not born knowing how to do. Babies know how to sleep just fine. Sleeping like an adult is learned—over the course of an entire childhood as the needs of your baby’s brain and body mature. Babies are capable of and content with doing the things evolution […]

Nursing in Public Discrimination

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My Journey Synopsis In a weekly, private meeting with our homeschool teacher through the Poway Unified School District (PUSD), I began breastfeeding my baby when the teacher told me that it was inappropriate. I educated her as to the law in CA, which states that a woman may breastfeed her baby anywhere she and her baby are allowed to be. I then received a phone call informing me that the official position the district would be taking is that because of my breastfeeding status, my 7 year old son would be excluded from the monthly group presentation class, and would […]

Booby Biter

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  The shockwave of pain that runs through your body is only matched by the paralyzing panic of frantically trying to remove this piranha from your nipple. Biting while breastfeeding can occur with or without teeth, but know that your baby’s entry into the world of chompers doesn’t have to mean chomping or weaning. Here’s the 411 on how to handle your booby biter as you handle all of your parenting challenges: with respect, compassion, and Sage Parenting19 know-how. If your baby is teething, the urge to bite down is powerful, so a firm “No biting” does not address the […]


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Respectful Rest I stay close, knowing that based on his natural rhythm, we could be nearing a period of dormancy. He slows down. He lingers closer. Then he takes my hand and politely asks, “Mommy, sit couch, mup (mommy milk)?” We snuggle down. He nurses and leaves the conscious world swirling around him for the secure and peaceful rest of a nap. And now I get to pull over my laptop, while my Squishy cuddles next to me, and write this piece on naps, which have to be one of the most grossly misunderstood and over-controlled aspects of parenting. I […]

Night Night Milkies

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Gentle Night Weaning Many breastfed toddlers reach a point when they figure out that during the day, they do not want to stop being active and having fun to breastfeed. Walking and eating new solid foods are novel skills they are just too excited about to take a break, be still, and nurse. They want to spend the whole day walking, playing, and chowing down on solid food. But they are not yet ready to wean; they still crave the nutrition from breastmilk and the bonding time from breastfeeding. Your toddler is so smart that they may realize that nighttime is […]