14 Minimalism

Sage Family Podcast 14: Minimalism

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Listen in iTunes | Listen in Stitcher This is episode 14 and today I’m here with Denaye Barahona Ph.D. talking about minimalism. Denaye is the voice behind Simple Families–a blog, podcast, and community that helps mothers thrive through simple living. She lives in New York with her husband and two children. Support the show on Patreon Adventure of the Week I share the magical forest theater where we hiked and saw Peter Pan with our friends. Highlights Minimalism: We share what minimalism really is and what it looks like for us. Parenting: I talk about how minimalism is a strong strand that is woven throughout […]

13 Values

Sage Family Podcast 13: Values

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Listen in iTunes | Listen in Stitcher This is episode 13 and today I’m here with my friend Becca Shern talking about values. Bex is a mom, partner, Registered Dietitian, and creator of Minimal Wellness. Through minimalist principles she helps her family and clients find, navigate, and enjoy the simple path to optimal health. Support the show on Patreon Adventure of the Week I share the breathtakingly beautiful lake we jumped into when we veered off course and embraced nature’s playground and history. Highlights Inherited Values: We talk about the work of unpacking the values you unconsciously inherited values from […]

Nature

Sage Family Podcast 11: Nature

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Listen in iTunes | Listen in Stitcher Today I’m here with my friend Nicolette Sowder talking about nature. Nicolette is a nature-connected educator and founder of Wilder Child and Wildschooling. Her passion is to serve as companion and guide for those families, educators and care givers interested in nurturing and growing their relationship with nature. She is also the creator of The Kids Moon Club, a year-long lunar journey designed to guide and encourage families to sync up with moon time. Most days you can find her being led through her farm and forest by her two wildlings. Support the show on […]

Discipline

Sage Family Podcast 7: Discipline

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Listen in iTunes | Listen in Stitcher Today I’m here with my friend Dr. Tamara Soles talking about Discipline on the gentle parenting path. Tamara is a mom of 4-year-old twins, Evangeline and Sawyer. She is a psychologist and parent coach in Montreal at the Centre she founded called the Secure Child Centre for Families and Children. Support the show on Patreon Adventure of the Week This week we met friends at the roller rink. I was rocking my pig tails and tube socks and it was so much playful fun. We danced like no one was watching, sang like […]

Winter Gear

Winter Family Gear for Nature Adventurers

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Just over a year ago we were living in San Diego with a wardrobe consisting of swim suits, sundresses (shorts and tanks for the kids), and flip flops. Then we took off on a new adventure in the Pacific Northwest and while we were so excited to experience 4 seasons, I was confused and intimidated trying to research and navigate what gear the kids needed for a lifestyle of nature adventures as homeschoolers (wildschooling, if you will). I can confidently say that we’ve now got this thing figured out and I’m sharing it here to save you the months of […]

Invisible Mother

The Invisible Mother

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Are you disappearing as a whole woman in your role as Mother? I had heard the mainstream warnings against “losing yourself” to motherhood that were used as battle cries against attachment parenting, full-time mothering, and homeschooling, but dismissed them as fear mongering that didn’t resonate with me and didn’t seem to resonate with my Sage Parents. Then I published my new book Sage Homeschooling: Wild and Free, and as the initial feedback began to roll in, one of the themes that emerged was a sense of surprise and excitement at being extended a seat at the table.   “Sage Homeschooling […]

Book Review: The Carpenter and the Gardener

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The Carpenter and the Gardener: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children by Alison Gopnik is a book I bought for the metaphor in the title, which struck me as brilliant. Most mainstream parents view parenting and education as carpentry. “You should pay some attention to the kind of material you are working with, and it may have some influence on what you try to do. But essentially your job is to shape that material into a final product that will fit the scheme you had in mind to begin with. And […]

The Whole-Brain Child

Book Review: The Whole-Brain Child

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contains affiliate links   The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson is a book that has been sitting on my virtual book shelf (Kindle library) for years. I am happy to report that 1. Marie Kondo was wrong and if you’re anything like me, you absolutely read books that have been sitting on your shelf unread and 2. this book met my expectations. I anticipated a book aimed at early childhood that gives parents a better understanding of the behind-the-scenes brain work underneath their child’s emotions and behavior. […]

Healing Through Parenting

Healing Through Parenting

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  I emerged from childhood with a lot of healing to do. On this I know I am not unique. Prior to motherhood, I did strive to be my best self, and some of that did include working through some of those wounds that stuck out most. But only once I emerged from the pregnancy chrysalis as a mother was I able to access my emotional depths. In hearing my baby cry, I heard my own unanswered cries. And in holding my child close with responsive empathy, I was soothing my own inner child. I could feel her tears drying […]

When Kids Are Bored

When Kids are Bored

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  What is boredom and how can we help support our children through it? Let’s unpack, shift, and live better, together. We’ve all seen the negative stereotype of the schooled child on summer break, sitting at home surrounded by stuff and whining, “I’m bored!” while the disengaged parent hides and scours Pinterest for new pretty toys to distract them and Google for day camps to busy them. But quickly filling in the space is not the solution. It’s an empty calorie, like eating a cheese puff when you’re hungry. It’s not good for you, it fills the space where something […]

It's Not Luck

It’s Not Luck

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“You’re so lucky to be home with your kids.” “We’re not all lucky enough to be able to homeschool.” It’s not luck that allows me to live the life I do. It’s a series of intentional choices and sacrifices. No one has ever said to me, “You’re so lucky to be a therapist,” because no one attributes that to luck. I’ve heard, “You have such admirable drive and commitment,” and “Your passion and skill has really changed lives,” and “Your sacrifices have been well worth it.” But never, “You’re so lucky to be doing this.” Let me explicitly state that […]

Do It All

How this Attachment Parenting, Homeschooling, Mompreneur Does It All

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  I don’t. Priorities Let’s start right there. I don’t do it all. No one does it all and I wouldn’t want to. Remember my post about Finding the Quality YES? I talked about how saying yes to one thing is actually saying no to a million other things. I’m sitting on my deck writing this for you while I watch my kids run around and play in the grass. I’m not an archeologist on a dig in Tanzania right now. I don’t want it all. I want to invest myself in the few consciously chosen intentions that we have designed […]

Choosing Home

Book Review: Choosing Home

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contains affiliate links A couple years ago I put a movie called Mom’s Night Out on my Netflix list. I don’t know what possessed me to do this as the Jesus vibes were detectable from the commercials. Upon arrival, I tossed it in the DVD player with less than no expectations. Then something shocking occurred: I actually loved it. Yes, they went to church, but it was one strand woven into the fabric of their lives as opposed to the whole point. Yes, it was sexist against men, in that the fathers were largely absent from parenthood and portrayed as totally incompetent […]

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Self Care Challenge

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I’ve been listening to you . . . and one thing I hear over and over is the struggle for self-care on the gentle parenting path. With Mother’s Day on the horizon, this is the perfect time to reflect and invest in ourselves as mothers. So if you’ve ever had even the smallest sense of depletion or losing of yourself, the next 7 days are going to rock your world. Day 1: Identity I don’t want you to be the victim of your own life. Let that really sink in for a minute. I want you to be the author […]

Store

Stop Apologizing for Your Children

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The next time you’re at the store, I want you to count how many times you apologize for your children. That “I’m sorry” is powerful. It says, “Children don’t belong here. The natural child is bad. One completely unnecessary unit of shame for both of us please.” I run down grocery aisles sometimes. “Oh, I’ll be right back babe, I forgot the avocados.” (Silly example, I would never forget avocados.) When I run down that produce aisle you know what happens? Absolutely nothing. No scene is created. No one cares. No apologies are given. “Excuse me. Could you pass me a […]

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Miscarriage: A Year After Pregnancy Loss

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  I had planned to write this 6 months ago on the anniversary of the loss of the baby that was not to be (you can read that story first here). But as the time came I knew deep in my soul that I was not ready. I knew there would be a day of reflection and that that day was not it. I couldn’t then tell you the exact anniversary date. I felt the passage of a solar circle but I stayed away from the calendar. I immersed myself in the present and kept busy nourishing the relationships and […]

Master Mealtime

Master Mealtime

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  You’re on a natural parenting path and you want to extend that wholesome, nutritive start that breastfeeding has provided. You are choosing what goes into your bodies with great intention, serving organic gluten-, sugar-, and artificial dye-free veg grown in a field grazed by unicorns (who fertilize the soil with rainbows) that is harvested by a circle of doula fairies singing “Imagine” (the Eva Cassidy version, of course). Or maybe not. But the parenting side of eating can often prove more challenging than we realize, as the weight of our own baggage around eating can prove heavy to bear. […]

Yes

Finding the Quality YES

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  The power of YES in opening up your life to a whole new world of joy, experiences, and collaboration cannot be understated. I couldn’t tell you how many times I have been profoundly moved by a detour from my agenda. I suppose that is the point after all. That “my” agenda is only 1 piece to our family’s map. In keeping myself open in the “yes” position, our whole life feels unlocked. We are free. We feel honored. We have room for happiness and adventure and natural life learning. One symptom of top-down power and control is the default “no” position. […]

Natural Trauma Recovery

Natural Trauma Recovery

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  My master’s degree is in therapy, which means I was trained to make my living off childhood trauma and the lifelong vibrations we feel from those chords being continually restruck. In becoming a mother and synthesizing these 2 worlds of knowledge and experience, I sought a parenting path that could provide a childhood my children wouldn’t need to heal from. This has led me to attachment parenting, unschooling, and what I have come to refer to as natural sleep, parenting, and learning. But life is a rich tapestry of experiences, holding a broad spectrum of emotional colors and textures. […]

The Poisonous Myth of Perfection

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  Sometimes I become friends in real life with Sage Mamas who have followed my work for years (mega perk to coaching over therapy). In preparation for the first playdate, they sometimes elude to a bit of nervousness and I often say something like, “You’ll get to meet my perfectly imperfect children,” to set them at ease. I mean that in the most loving, positive, and accepting way. My children don’t have a performance standard – pressure or judgment – when we are out in the world, even around my beloved clients. I accept their whole selves, even the messy […]