Get more and better sleep with your little one . . .
with a Personalized Plan to Better Sleep In The Next 30 Days (without cry-it-out or controlled crying)
Sage Sleep Coaching
Have you ever said to yourself . . .
"Another sleepless night spent counting the minutes on the clock - I think my body is breaking down and I'm losing my sanity."
"How do attachment parents ever sleep while co-sleeping and night nursing?"
"I'm failing at motherhood. If my toddler would just sleep . . . !"
"I refuse to baby train . . . but can you literally die from exhaustion and isolation?"
Sleep is the #1 struggle in the first season of motherhood. For those of us committed to walking a gentle parenting path that respects our babies' natural needs, we can feel even more alone.
I know I did when my firstborn's late night escapades had me feeling trapped in a cycle of exhausting marathon nursing, messy spitting up, and loud crying. I paced desperately around the room with teary, bloodshot eyes, my mind adrift in a sea of "should's" and "should not's." The following day's casual yet loaded conversation starter, "Is he sleeping through the night?" would trigger a cascade of misinformed advice and referrals to pseudo experts with threats and promises from "Never allow the baby to fall asleep at the breast" to "Get Baby sleeping through the night in 3 days." The "secret," of course, always seemed to boil down to, "lay them in a crib to cry so they are trained to sleep like adults."
After diving into the literature and research while studying for my advanced degrees and working intimately with hundreds of families through my work (plus 3 co-sleeping babes of my own), I discovered that those natural drives of early childhood are actually brilliant and essential for a little one to thrive. And if you stop fighting against them and shift everything around them, you find the path to quality (and quantity) sleep. There is a path to sleep that honors needs while fostering both connection and independence. That includes YOUR needs too.
Now, our nights are harmonious, with a permeable balance of connection and independence that allows us all to thrive. Last night, after moving through a nourishing bedtime routine that ended in a story, I relaxed and enjoyed reading my own book while my little one cuddled close and then stretched into his own space and fell asleep peacefully. He is comforted by my presence and competent in meeting his own needs.
“What if I could honor this little one’s needs and get more and better sleep? OMG – the radiant glory of us both waking up with peace. I could feel more like myself again and be a better mother!”
1. Sleep Expectations
Addressing your expectations for your child and sleep is a critical first step, as your sleep baggage can sabotage your progress.
2. Sleep Arrangement
Next we will cover the "where" of sleep, creatively tailoring the specifics to your unique family's needs and your long-term goals, including safe sleep (reducing the risk of SIDS and your anxiety).
3. Sleep Environment
Then we will dive into creating a sleepscape that will foster both connection and independence, taking into account all of the senses.
4. Sleep Routine
After that, we design a full rhythm around your family's flow and joy that fully nourishes all of your little one's needs going into sleep.
5. Sleep Interrupted
Finally, we go over the plan for meeting your baby's awakenings in ways that allow for better sleep for everyone and I'll continue to support you as you implement and we adjust.
6. Night Weaning
If needed (though not at all required), I can support you through a loving process of night weaning your toddler, providing a plan with specifics for your family to facilitate this transition without trauma.
In one month, through a sensory approach that incorporates Montessori and Attachment Parenting, you will:
↠ better understand your child's needs
↠ have a clear plan of action
↠ take gradual and gentle steps
↠ enjoy more and better sleep
↠ enhance your connection with your child
↠ be on a long-term path of sleep success
↠ gain confidence as a mother
In other words, start now and you’ll be posting mama-baby selfies minus the zombie-style dark under-eye circles by the next month’s milestones.
You'll be coached through your sleep challenges from anywhere in the world, without ever leaving your home (showers not required). I will hold space for your struggles and guide you forward with a personalized plan, rooted in connection, that unfolds as an easy conversation with a trusted mentor, to support you as you shift, via Skype and email.
1 month of coaching
4 weekly 45-minute Skype sessions
a personalized guide
exclusive Facebook group membership
*Next available month: January
*Only 5 spots available each month
“Sage Coaching has provided us the confidence, assurance and resources/tools to help us continue to parent from a place of love and respect. Rachel was able to easily assess our family sleeping needs and put into place a step by step plan of action in the middle of a sleepless family crisis! Our greatest benefit obtained from our experience with Sage Coaching is knowing that we had the support, guidance and wisdom of Sage Coaching to make it through the transition of sleep arrangements. There is no way we could have done it on our own and that was becoming more and more apparent. We are so grateful to Rachel. She truly is an angel!
We have achieved peace! Peace of mind, peace and quiet, a peaceful nighttime routine. The ultimate goal that we hoped to achieve was sleep (lots and lots of restful sleep) however we have received so much more from our experience with Sage Parenting.”
Carlee Rivera Sims
"If you are struggling with a toddler who still wakes up 6-8 times per night. If you are getting no sleep and are unable to function during your day at home or at work. If you have heard about methods like CIO and you cringe at the thought of distressing and damaging your child, I highly recommend hiring Rachel Rainbolt of Sage Parenting. Liam has been sleeping through the night for almost 4 months now. I am a new person. More rested, more productive, more sensitive. I feel amazing and I feel amazing knowing I helped my boy sleep through the night without harming him in any way.
We could not be more grateful to Rachel and I wanted to share this with my friends who are parents of small children."
"Your support has been beyond helpful, you've been life changing! Where I used to fear nap time and thought I couldn't have my toddler home full-time, nap time is now the easiest part of my day! It's amazing that we got to this point. I can't thank you enough!!!"
"Sage Coaching has provided us the confidence, assurance and resources/tools to help us continue to parent from a place of love and respect. Rachel was able to easily assess our family sleeping needs and put into place a step by step plan of action in the middle of a sleepless family crisis! Our greatest benefit obtained from our experience with Sage Coaching is knowing that we had the support, guidance and wisdom of Sage Coaching to make it through the transition of sleep arrangements. There is no way we could have done it on our own and that was becoming more and more apparent. We are so grateful to Rachel. She truly is an angel dressed in teal!
We have achieved peace! Peace of mind, peace and quiet, a peaceful nighttime routine. The ultimate goal that we hoped to achieve was sleep (lots and lots of restful sleep) however we have received so much more from our experience with Sage Parenting.
I am a why person. I love to ask the question why. After I obtain the reason why, I need a plan. Sage Coaching educated us on the mental, physiological and emotional development of Madison which made it easy to understand why we needed to restructure our nighttime parenting to meet her needs. We have seen wonderful results and I know that we will continue to do so."
Carlee Rivera Sims
"I want to thank you. We want to thank you. From the bottom of my heart I do. I can't believe that no one, NO ONE, was able to help us make our life with a baby sustainable. I died inside, so many times. And then we pay 400usd (sorry, I am pragmatic :D) and try an overseas online coaching (yes, people were eye rolling) and you save us, change our life entirely to the better. We are still quite shocked about how easy the process was at the end, to get to a sustainable level. But shell shocked that no one could help us before. You are a life savior, please never stop doing what you do."
"During our coaching sessions, Rachel provided me with the tools to not only solve our family's most urgent sleep challenges, but also to gracefully meet any issues that should arise as our babies grow and situations change. If you are a parent who needs more sleep, or the parent of a child who could benefit from improved sleep, Rachel can help you achieve practical results in a loving, connected way. What I believe truly sets her apart, however, is her ability to support caregivers through the process. I had anxieties, baggage, and confusion around my twins' sleep that was impacting my experience of motherhood. In Rachel, I felt seen and validated -- two feelings that are extremely hard to come by for a new mother. My comfort in being vulnerable with her, and her thoughtful responses, informed the ways in which we moved forward and enriched the experience. I am so thankful for Rachel's guidance and would not hesitate to recommend her."
"I feel so fortunate to have been able to connect with Rachel and attain some of her wisdom. Through coaching I have learned so much about sleep and have been able to offer my little one the most natural and nurturing sleep that I can imagine! Coaching has taken away my fears surrounding what "sleep should look like " in babies. Since becoming a mother, I've heard so much advice from friends and medical professionals that did not fit what I wanted for my baby and I. I am so grateful that Rachel shares a similar approach to looking at sleep. I have learned the importance of following what feels natural and this has facilitated such a strong bond between my baby and I.
The outcomes we have achieved are stress relief for myself (and as a result my baby too I'm sure!), improved nap times, and greater understanding of my baby and his needs!! I am grateful that there are approaches to sleep that do not involve tears. I have gained a wealth of knowledge and learned creative, gentle, baby-friendly approaches to sleep.
Coaching has been so incredible and therapeutic for me. Help from Sage Parenting has increased my confidence as a mother. I have no doubts regarding the approach I am taking regarding sleep and my baby. I follow his cues completely and am grateful for the strategies offered to help facilitate better/deeper sleep. Rachel is so kind, motivating, and incredibly empowering. I am truly grateful for all of her help! We need more Rachel Rainbolts!! Your kindness and compassion for infants and their parents shine through!!
Thank you so much!!"
"I cannot thank Sage Parenting enough for all the support I have been given in this wonderful journey. There are so many "sleep training" methods, and none of them spoke to me. While I refused these methods, I was so worried that I was setting me and my baby up for failure. Rachel was amazing and she validated all of my feelings regarding co-sleeping and "waiting it out". She is compassionate, supportive, and wonderfully nourishing. Just what I needed to be confident in the job I am doing. We have had amazing results in just a few nights. I love the closeness we have, and with her help we are sleeping better, yet still together, and with no cry or stress! I would highly recommend to any family!"
"This is something that I never believed could happen. In less than a month my daughter is napping on her own and sleeping in her own bed (for most of the night). I feel like I have supported and respected her through the difficult process."
"Okay so this might not look like much to you, but this is our 12 month old son sleeping... He made some noise about 30 minutes ago and we looked at the monitor. A few minutes later he was sitting up ... looking around his room quietly. He was rubbing his eyes and then put his thumb in his mouth and put his head down ... So funny and cute!! The incredible thing is he didn't call for us. He's become more comfortable with sleep and felt safe and secure enough to lay down on his own. He knows that if he calls for us we come. And he might wake up again in a few minutes ... need to be tucked in again and I will go in and give him love and support. It's been a road to get here, but Rachel Rainbolt's guidance has been amazing. I feel so good knowing that he has arrived at this stage of sleep comfort and security with our support and we never forced him into anything. 2 nights ago he didn't call for us for 9.5 hours. Last night he called out more and I ended up sleeping with him in his room from 1am on. I now have peace in the nights and with how things have gone. Thank you thank you!"
"After unintentionally weaning my toddler one very exhausting night, she was traumatized. She would not let me touch her. She would not look at me. She cried for days. I came to Rachel desperate and devastated and in one day my relationship with my daughter has been restored and our breastfeeding relationship has been saved. I could never thank her enough."
Sage Mama Sarah
"Well I must say that I clearly know a lot of mental health professionals and other parenting coaches but there is a reason that I come to you. of course we all benefit from outside perspective, but yours is one that I trust implicitly as being gentle, honest and in keeping with the path that fits for us/me personally and professionally. So again, I express my gratitude on behalf of the four of us."
Dr. Tamara Soles, Sage Mama to twins
"I truly cannot thank you enough for all that you have done. I really did not think this day would ever come (My toddler went from waking and nursing every hour to sleeping through the night!) and man does it feel good. I miss that tiny baby beside me curled up in my nook but I don’t miss having someone permanently attached to my body all night long. It’s bittersweet, but was much needed for everyone.
Not only have you helped me get more sleep (and Quinn), but I truly feel more myself again. I don’t feel like a mindless zombie who has little patience and isn’t very kind most of the day. It really has helped my mood and attitude each day which in turn has helped my relationships with my kiddos. I think they see the change. You also helped me to change my mindset on many things which has helped with expectations. That was a game changer because those were always letting me down. Peace seems to be returning to our home one small step at a time. I owe so much of that to you and your wisdom.
Thank you for being such a great support and cheerleader through it all. Your words of affirmation truly helped this to work. You have a gift not only for being sleep guru but also just for connecting with people and really seeing them. For understanding the place they are coming from and working with them in a way that best fits their needs. I greatly appreciate that! I am so glad I randomly found you and connected. You have such a warm and loving spirit. You are very wise and talented at what you do. You are a wonderful human being and I’m honored to have had the chance to invite you “into” my home. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything! The Campbells will be eternally grateful."
"Look at that little diaper butt, all asleep. HUGE THANK YOU to Rachel at Sage Parenting for helping me know how to best help my son feel comfortable falling asleep in his own bed, by himself. After months of struggle, she was a shining light, helping us understand our son and give him the space and time to go to sleep on his own terms. Today's nap marks the first time since this struggle started that Chadwick fell asleep without someone in bed with him."
Sage Mama of 2 Erin
"I was sleep deprived for almost 2 years and it was killing me. He used to wake up every hour to eat. It was affecting my entire life. I hired Rachel Rainbolt and she created a plan for me. It took like two months because I wanted to do it very very slow so he didn't feel bad about the change. Now he sleeps from 8pm to 5:30am almost everyday. I honestly recommend hiring Rachel so she can create a specific plan for your needs. It really really helped. I feel I am a functioning human being again."
"Omg. Rachel Rainbolt is amazing! She's wonderful. She's a lifesaver! Started working with her 2 weeks ago. So much better. Her sleep book is exactly how I feel. And Shayna is doing so great already adapting to falling asleep without having to have nipple in mouth. Slowly but surely. We switched to a floor bed, and minimized the bedroom environment, and adjusted our flow. Life is much better. Our whole family is more grounded and happy."
"Once again Rachel's Sage parenting advice wins Bedtime is only taking about 10-15 extra minutes, which is not a big deal, and there are no more tears or feelings of frustration. Thank you!!"
"Rachel's coaching was amazing in helping my family with sleep while addressing my concerns of being loving and attentive and present with my son...in a gentle parenting/attachment type way! I'm so grateful!! This was such a great choice! I was able to be in the room with my son (which so many coaches suggested I should "wean" off of), am still nursing him in the daytime at almost 22 months, and we have in the last month had a number of nights of 7-8 hours of him sleeping or putting himself back to sleep (I've needed to get used to waiting a bit when there are a few crying noises because at this point he really does fall back asleep or is still mostly asleep after just a minute or two often!) Yet, I am able to go in any time I feel that is "right" without worrying it will mess up our sleep long-term...We are all the way to not nursing until 5:45 a.m.now and working our way toward the 7 or 7:30 waking up time gradually. And, I adjusted when he was sick, nursing him more at night, and then just worked my way back here. Her additional support through the Facebook group you get to join after being a client is great!!, and you get to be part of a community of others who want to support themselves and their families in having a loving and also happy life together,...taking care of themselves and their kids at the same time!, and not just with sleep but in other areas too. And, the e-mail support was a perfect way to be coached for the month I worked with Rachel and she adjusted for what we wanted in our family, with respect for us, and also for what worked as we tried a couple of things...always encouraging me that I was making progress and providing the loving support I wanted even as I chose to have my son sleep in another room (many co-sleep that she works with), and reduce night nursing...but I could do it lovingly and presently, and still provide all the nursing wanted during the day (which another coach recommended I lessen, in addition to, as I mentioned, working my way out of being in his room to help him sleep or get back to sleep). I highly recommend working with her (and have recommended her to others) and also checking out her books Sage Sleep, Sage Parenting, Sage Breastfeeding. Thank you, thank you, Rachel!!"
Kathryn in Indianapolis
"When I first started doing sleep coaching with Rachel Rainbolt, I could never imagine we would get to a peaceful place with sleep. We all sleep together now and, while some nights are easier than others, we mostly sleep. I go to bed and can trust I will wake up reasonably refreshed.
And I just received a text message from our nanny that Zeke (just turned 2) said to her that he is tired and he wants to go to sleep. WHA?!!?
Amazing. Thank you to this group and to Rachel Rainboltfor constantly reinforcing that we move through seasons..."
"Thank you so much for your invaluable help over the last month. Not just on sleep & that’s working so much better for us as a family but also your brilliant advice, love and support. Your fantastic advice has truly made a world of difference to us all, especially our little man."