Chores done. Learning practiced. Challenges supported.
Soft structure for raising responsible free spirits
The Bucket System
“I hated how I had no power or control over my life growing up, and yet, I don’t know how to get things done without repeating the same mistakes with my own kids.”
“I know I don’t want a rigid schedule, but we really need something to help us flow through our days more easily.”
“I’ve worked so hard to embrace gentle parenting, but I’m not sure how to extend that into homeschooling.”
“I’ve read enough to know that rewards, punishments, and coercive school-at-home are not for us, but what do we do instead?”
“I want to lean into freedom and trust, but I also want them to be healthy and nurtured.”
“I want to foster independence in my children, but it feels like I’m just nagging them all day long.”
I used to be right where you are today. I said no to all the manipulative top-down power and control-based tactics (after years of research taught me that they do not foster the life-long qualities I hoped to foster in my children), but I didn’t know what to do instead. Then I began to extend the collaboration piece that worked so beautifully in my parenting into the rest of our family life: our homeschooling, our household, and our strengths and challenges. We brought intention to the spending of our time and energy—in conscious collaboration as a family. Then bringing in the sensory piece of the bucket and clothespins scaffolded the tactile accountability my kids needed for their independence to blossom. For 5 years the Bucket System has provided the soft structure we have needed to raise responsible free spirits.
But it’s not just us. Hundreds of families have taken the Bucket System class and found it to be just what they’ve needed to unlock the ease of this lifestyle.
Are you ready for everyone to work together to maintain a clean home?
Are you ready for self-directed home education to flourish?
Are you ready to effectively support your children’s strengths and challenges?
Seasonally collaborate with your child on intentions (a respectful meeting of minds and needs).
Create a personalized bucket together (bringing the abstract into the physical, sensory world).
Watch as your child leads the way through their day and learn more about what they need for the next refresh.
In one week, through a sensory approach that incorporates chores and homeschooling, you will:
↠ get all on the same page
↠ witness responsibilities being completed independently
↠ flow through your daily rhythm with ease
↠ channel passions into productive practice
↠ support your child's challenges and strengths
↠ enhance your connection with your child
↠ be on a long-term path of success
↠ gain confidence as a mother
In other words, start now and you’ll be asking for a name tag that says, "winning."
Workbook: 30 pretty pages of instructional awesomeness
Webinar: a video of me walking you through the material
Tribe: admission into the exclusive Sage Parenting Facebook Tribe for long term community support
"My nine-year-old has already showered, attended to his project work, and cleaned the kitchen floor. This, and other miracles, brought to you by Sage Parenting's seriously amazing Bucket System. All three kids sat down with me and discussed goals for the season, and we came up with clothespin tasks for each. Each task needs to be completed by dinner, in whichever order the child chooses, then they have free time. Only one limit! Finn's is more robust since it guides our homeschool . . . Sadie's includes items like drawing and dancing. Lachlan's is sparse since he will be in Montessori school full-time. Anywho, if you have kids, do check out the Bucket System. It's a game changer!"
Meg McElwee (Sew Liberated)
"Last clothespin on the bucket is 'creative' and let's say there's no sighing or anger. Piano has been played, shoes and coats tidied, and clothes laid out for tomorrow. And I didn't say a thing, nag, yell or feel internally frustrated. Holy lightbulb of making life full of getting shit done and still smiling. This dog I mean mom, can learn new tricks!"
Melissa Lang Lytle
"That's a 5 year old scrubbing a toilet! She was the first done with her bucket today. Things are going mostly smoothly! 8 year old is um, adjusting. 10 year old is soaring through and doing more homeschool work than he's touched in months!!! Like is this bubble going to bust? My 8 year definitely tested the limits. I stood firm. He isn't done yet, but happily journaling for an hour now. My house had not been this peaceful and productive in ages. I could cry. Best money I ever spent! They read together, they practiced Aikido together, their rooms are tidy, the bathrooms are clean... My 10 year old whipped though math in a quarter of a time he normally spent crying about doing it... And my partner who was skeptical about the whole thing has been doing house love all day!"
"I had the honor to host Rachel Rainbolt for a class (Bucket System) at my home yesterday! Who knew so much stuff would come up while learning a soft structured system to keep our family organized? I love learning on this journey with Rachel~ I'm learning how to be a better me, a better more connected parent, and honor our family's unique needs while learning what others do. My kids are geeked to get started and I'm hoping to have our family meeting tonight or tomorrow night."
Melissa Lang Lytle
"Eva watched the whole class with me and is super excited. She collected buckets from around the house, made a list, and counted up all the clothespins from the laundry room! Unschooling FTW!"
Lucia Silva & Eva & Levon
"The bucket class was awesome. Thank you so much! Started the conversation about them at our family meeting this morning and my kid seems excited! I am, too."
"Love, love, love! Seriously revolutionizing our household If you've got little ones, I highly recommend checking this out."
"We have been LOVING it over here. It really has been the best thing we have tried so far and the kids have taken to it wonderfully. Stoked."
"We did the sticker charts when we were potty training. It didn't work and it just created this whole other situation to try and control. Our son is on a more intrinsic learning path these days and the bucket system has reinforced and helped with that."
"I want to share about a recent workshop I took and how successful it has been for our family. Helping to teach chores, responsibilities and most importantly giving my children the intrinsic desire and autonomy to do it within their own time throughout the day is what intrigued me enough to actually give it a try. This system doesn't give starts or treats or money or other bribes. We want to instill a framework of being a team and this does just that. I was a bit skeptical but low and behold it is working for us. We are still adjusting and modifying here and there each week to find what specifically works for each family member but loving it. The Bucket System is taught by Rachel Rainbolt of Sage Parenting who has an overall philosophy that really resonate with me. Check it out. It really is good. It keeps us on track through the day. Very happy. Also makes the kids feel proud of themselves for doing their part. Here's my son mopping the floor. Of course he needed help with this but the point is he wanted to do this. He chose to do this chore. Seriously the best thing is that I'm not nagging. At all. Which is a huge step. I really just want to get to a place where we are on auto pilot by the time they are junior high age or earlier really. Especially since we are homeschooling for now it is really necessary to be on the same page for daily and weekly responsibilities. Not just chores."
"I really enjoyed the class. I didn’t expect to get as much out of it as I did. It was so inspiring and life-changing for me. Thank you again. I really admire your style!"